“Are you on Facebook?”Â I’m getting this question more and more these days, from friends and acquaintances alike.
My answer, always said with a slightly apologetic tone: “No.”
Let me say up-front that I don’t consider this a moral issue. It’s not like I think Facebook is the online equivalent of shooting heroin.Â I just don’t think it’s something I should do.
My main reason is a practical one.Â From my friends who are on Facebook, I hear that it’s a real time-suck.Â Trust me when I say that the LAST thing I need is another reason to spend time online.Â Â It’s kind of similar to my resistance to getting Tivo: I don’t want another excuse to plop myself in a sitting position in front of a screen.
“But it’s a great way to catch up with people,” say my pro-Facebook buddies, and I believe them.Â I’d love to reconnect with people from high school, to get frequent chatty updates about what is going on in people’s lives.Â As an author, too, I know that I”m missing out on a golden chance to network and promote my book and meet other people who are also kinda crazy about Mary.
But I know myself.Â I know that it would be very, very hard to self-regulate when I could have the fun of logging on every ten minutes to see who has posted what.Â This is exactly why I don’t buy industrial-sizedÂ bags of gummy bears: I like them far too much.Â That makes them far too dangerous.
I’m not a total Luddite.Â I do blog, and email, which keeps me pretty busy as it is.Â I fear that having something else to do online would steal time not only from these pursuits, but also from the soul-nourishing activities that are already getting short shrift: my books, my photo albums, my garden.Â My prayer life.
Having said all that, I must in all honesty add that I could change.Â My grandma used to have a saying framed on her kitchen wall: Lord, make my words tender and gracious, for tomorrow I may have to eat them. I may decide to jump into the Facebook pool at some point;Â when I’ve figured out how to be better with my time, say.Â But for now, I’m just blogging and emailing: you know,Â those quaintly old-fashioned ways of communicating.
So what are your thoughts about Facebook?Â I’d love to hear them.Â I could still be swayed ….